Parenting and children

Posted on July 13th, 2007 by GracyBee.
Categories: Everyday life.

Finally my dear friend A is free to meet up. Well, I can’t really blame her due to her hectic schedule and now that she is pregnant again, she is even more tired and stressed. Despite that, we had nice time together and get to see my god daughter. Gosh how much she has grown, and her vocabulary grew leaps and bounds that she even know what we are gossiping!! hahaha…what a kay poh! :P

Though I’m not married and have children yet, she related to me about her experiences dealing with children. I guess it is not easy after all to deal with children, esp your own. She told me that working parents can’t spend time with children, and most of the time would give in to their whims & whimpers and give them more materialistic happines. Well, I can’t blame them as they have their own constraints.

It seem to be the same situation at home. Even with my own niece and nephews, age b/w 8 - 12, It can be quite difficult to deal with them. Yes, they have a mind on their own, though not matured at times; quarrelling, their ideal of reasoning, the way of getting things etc. Sometimes I forget that they are not yet adults but I treated them like one and expect them to behave like one. I noticed that their parents tried to spend time with them during weekends, however the children behave quite differently when with and without parents. Not quite a good sign I have to say, as the parents eventually don’t know what they are up to actually.

But that is impossible, and where should I cross the line and stop treating like they are full time adult? I often relate back to when I was like their age, how I used to be and how I actually wanted the adults to treat me. Well, it is impossible sometimes to give them leeway too much.

After seeing such real life example, I have my own ideal of parenting. I wish to be a Stay at home mum to look after my children after they are born (after I get married of coz). I want to take care of my own kids as much as possible, and to teach them good values while they are young. I wish to give them plenty of love and hugs and yet discipline when needed. I want them to enjoy their childhood as much as possible.

Seem very perfect but I hope to achieve that, taking into consideration about what the situation may be esp in finance. Hey….it is not as if I’m married or getting married hehehe……It would be sometime later since I have yet to find the 2nd half!!

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