Gracy Bee

Family issues

Posted on June 12th, 2007 by GracyBee.
Categories: Everyday life.

Different people have different issues with their family members. While some have close relationship and understanding parents/ sibling, there are some, unfortunately, don’t have such.

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One of the issues I realise, always concern money. Once their children joined the work force, some parents demand that they are to be given money. That is pretty normal, but what happened if there are siblings; one don’t cooperate to give some to parents, leaving the pressure to another who don’t earn quite enough and yet wanted to save for future education.

I felt quite sad to know such incidents. I mean, I thought there should be some compromise and coperation between siblings to contribute to the family? And also ideally there should have some understanding from parents to know that children does face some difficulties about parting their hard earn money, especially when there is not enough to give. So why that hard pressure to give them quite a big sum when we don’t even earn that much? The pressure get so bad sometimes children threaten to move out or parents argued not to cook or do housework for them. I mean, where has the family harmony gone to?

Don’t get me wrong. I’m not implying that children shouldn’t give. I know parents do sacrifice their time and money for the family. But time has changed. Things cost a lot more and sometimes whatever earned is not enough. I’m sure children want to contribute, but sometimes there are constraints that children only hope parents would understand. On the other hand, I have heard another side of the story that X has 3 children, all successful with their chosen careers. However, they don’t give X any money that X has to find odd jobs to support herself and her illness. I mean that is sad too. In this case, the children can afford to give so why not give?? I mean, they don’t think how their mum slogged during her times to help raise them?? Really don’t understand them. Surely they must have their reasons, but I just hope in my heart those reasons are not selfish one.

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I felt lucky that for the time being I don’t face such pressures at the moment as my parents are self sufficient at the moment. However, I know that they can’t be like that forever, so when that time arrived, I would try support them wherever I can and hope the pressure wouldn’t be too great as I do face with one problem at the moment!!

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What to do when face such problems? I still believe discussing, compromising and giving in are the keys but said is always easier than done.

I wish all the best, I hope in time, all be resolved.

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